How happy is happy?

I’ve come to the conclusion after more than half a century on Planet Earth that most things are relative, take for example, happiness.  How happy is happy and who gets to decide and how do you go about measuring it?  There are lots of nasty questions psychologists ask you to determine if you are clinically depressed; I think the one asking if you have contemplated suicide in the last few days is a big giveaway. 

But how does one measure happiness?  Does it depend on the individual and how do we know if you are happier than the person sitting next to you on the bus?  One man’s pleasure is another man’s poison.  In my case I am a million times happier than I was this time last year but to my friend who only remembered the ecstatic me 30 years ago I am very unhappy.  In fact I am not unhappy; yes I shed a few tears while telling her of my stay at Heartbreak Hotel but that is only to indicate my sadness that that had happened and not a reliable marker of my happiness level now.

Are you happier today than yesterday or roughly the same or does it depend on external forces such as some unexpected bad news or cruel words from a loved one? 

I’d love to hear your views on the subject.  Meanwhile be happy.

About cho wan yau

Teacher by day poet/writer by night. Words have been my first love and will be my last. As a child I locked myself into the toilet devouring books which transported me to distant lands. Poetry shared penned from 2009-2010 in a titanic struggle to stay sane at Heartbreak Hotel. Please check it out on Any comments or feedback welcome. Why not share your story with me, because we all have one, don't we?

Posted on January 6, 2014, in Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Happiness is unattainable as a constant state of mind. We have been led to believe that if we are not happy that there is something wrong with us. Contentment, peace, and a knowing that are existence is of value and means something to us and others is what we truly need.

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